Sometimes the most dangerous lies are the ones we tell ourselves. And the hardest part? We don’t even notice we’re doing it. Over time, just like with any sin, we can grow numb to it, losing sight of where we are, and how much we’re slowly changing because of it.

We say things like:
“My pornography doesn’t hurt anyone…”
“Well, they deserved it.”
“I don’t drink that much…”
“We’re just friends.”
“I deserve this.”
“I’m not hurting anyone.”
“I can stop any time.”
“I don’t even care.”

These are the whispers the enemy loves to use lies that draw us into darkness, push us away from God, and harden our hearts.

So, friend, let me ask you what I first asked myself:

👉 What lies have you been repeating so often that you’ve almost started to believe them?
👉 What secret would make you nervous if someone else pointed it out?
👉 What is God asking you to finally bring into the light?

Don’t let your heart grow calloused. Don’t let the enemy convince you that change isn’t possible.

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:32

The truth is, we lie to ourselves because deep down we know something needs to change, but we don’t know where to begin. The good news? God does. He knows the way out. He has the power, wisdom, and love to show you step by step. But it begins with you inviting Him in, letting His truth seep in, and allowing Him to free you from the chains of deception.

God already holds the keys. All you have to do is open the door and let His light shine in.
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Sometimes we can feel like we’re being strong and doing the best thing we can do by ignoring some of the hurts we’ve been blown. That, if we just get over it and never give that person or what they did a second glance or thought, it will be done with, and we’ll just, move on. But the reality is, things have wounded us don’t just go away, but end up sitting there, deep down in our hearts, and eventually end up seeping into the relationships we have now, cutting the people closest to us in areas of THEIR heart, all because we didn’t allow God to heal the wounds we took in our own.

There’s a reason why you snap at your significant other sometimes, when they didn’t do anything to warrant it.

There’s a reason you might have trust issues with those closest to you, when they’ve given you absolutely no reason to have them.

There’s a reason why sometimes you feel so down, when you have so many reasons around you to be up.

There’s a reason why you don’t want to be intimate with your husband, when he is everything you hoped for, and the man you dearly prayed for.

There’s a reason for it all, friend. And it starts with you, going back, and addressing whats been done and what you’ve gone through, so you can give it to God, and then allow the healing hand of Jesus to come in and heal and transform you.
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Because God didn’t allow all that’s been done to hurt you and the relationships you are in, but to grow you, and draw you that much closer to Him, so you can shine even brighter, and reflect even more of Him. So don’t let your pain be a tool for the enemy. Let God use it to bring healing and Him, that much more glory.

Find what’s been done, friend. Address it. And then heal from it, so your relationships won’t keep suffering because of it. 

Sarah Jean Armstrong