Healing the Wounds of Childhood Trauma: Turning Toward the One Who Never Wounds

​When we’ve been deeply wounded as children, we often learn to chase love from those who withhold it. Somewhere along the way, our hearts absorbed the lie that if we could just be “good enough,” “quiet enough,” or “loving enough,” then maybe someone would finally stay, see us, or love us in return. But that endless striving—trying to earn care from those who hurt us—keeps us trapped in a painful cycle of rejection and shame. We learn to normalize mistreatment, confuse survival with love, and call chaos “home.”

Why We Repeat the Cycle Unhealed childhood wounds don’t just fade away with time—they follow us into adulthood. Without realizing it, we often seek familiar patterns, gravitating toward people who mirror our early pain. What’s broken feels comfortable because it’s what we know.

This is why trauma healing isn’t simply about changing relationships—it’s about allowing God to change the inner narrative we’ve believed about love, worth, and identity.

The Turning Point: Looking to Jesus Healing begins the moment we stop chasing love that wounds and turn toward the One who heals.
Jesus is not repelled by your brokenness; He is drawn to it. He doesn’t demand that you earn His love—He offers it freely, fully, and forever.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
— Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)

In Christ, you are not “too much,” “too damaged,” or “too late.” You are deeply known, fully loved, and completely safe.

Walking Toward Wholeness. Recovery and healing take time. God uses truth, community, and often counseling to help untangle the lies that trauma taught us. Through prayer, Scripture, and Christ-centered support, we can begin to:
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• Recognize unhealthy patterns rooted in past pain
• Set boundaries that honor God and protect our hearts
• Allow safe people and counselors to walk alongside us
• Replace fear and striving with peace and trust in God’s love
• You don’t have to carry your pain alone. Jesus already carried it to the Cross so that you could be free.

A Prayer for the Hurting Heart Lord Jesus,

You see the parts of my story that still ache. Teach me to stop chasing love that wounds and turn fully toward Your healing love. Bind up the places in me that are still bleeding from the past. Restore what was broken and show me that I am safe in Your hands.

In Jesus's Name, Amen.

If this message resonates with you, don’t walk through your healing journey alone.

At The Balm of Gilead Ministries, our counselors are here to walk with you toward wholeness and freedom in Christ.
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