When Your Worth Has Been Attached To Someone's Approval

Some of us learned early in life that love must be earned.
 
So we:
 
• over-explain
• over-apologize
• over-achieve
• stay quiet
• work harder
…just to be accepted.
 
But when someone else’s anger, silence, disappointment, or approval determines how valuable we feel, something sacred has shifted out of God’s order.
 
Your identity was never meant to be placed in the hands of another human.
 
Your worth was declared at the cross long before you performed, tried to earn love or prove yourself.
 
Relationships can affirm identity…
 
…but they should never assign it.
 
Listen to the father’s heart:
 
“You are precious and honored in My sight.”
— Isaiah 43:4
 
Let Jesus re-anchor you where worth cannot be withdrawn.
 
• Whose approval do you fear losing?
• What would change if you lived loved instead of earning love?
 
Lord, silence every voice that assigns my worth. Let Your truth settle deeper than rejection, and restore my identity in You alone.
In Jesus’s name, Amen.
 
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